What is the key to online dating?
In Monday's NY Times, there was an article about the skepticism some psychologists have for online dating algorithms and their ability to make successful romantic matches. "A Match in the Code" discusses what is problematic about assuming that if potential dating partners have similarities in traits (e.g., agreeableness, degree of sexual and romantic passion) they will click. Some of the research psychologists indicate that a lot more goes into compatibility than similarities. As a psychologist who works with couples getting together and splitting up, I agree. As I mentioned in a previous blog ("Preventing Divorce Before Marriage"), expectations play a large role in dating success and marriage. Is a couple looking for a smooth ride or do they understand that a successful relationship takes a lot of hard work, perseverance, patience, and communication skills? As Dr. John Gottman demonstrated in his couples' research in which he could predict couple's divorce with 90% accuracy, the way you approach your partner when resolving issues is key. Perhaps online dating sites should consider this in their algorithm?